I was listening to an interview with Law Roach the other day. If you don’t know him, he is Zendaya’s longtime stylist, the guy behind almost every unforgettable red carpet look you’ve seen her wear.

The interviewer asked him something simple. Is he still boycotting the luxury designers who turned Zendaya away early in her career, back when she was just starting out and he said no.

"Holding grudges makes you ugly", he said, and in his quest to become more beautiful, he chose to release the ones he had been holding onto.

But here is the part I loved even more. Letting go of the grudge did not mean letting everyone back in. Zendaya still does not wear those designers on the red carpet. He forgave them in his heart, and he still holds the boundary.

Because here is what I know to be true. What you carry on the inside does not stay on the inside. It shows up. In your face, in your body, in the way you carry yourself, in the way you show up in your relationships and in your work.

Resentments do not just live in your mind. It lives in your shoulders, your jaw, your stomach, in tension you carry and don’t even realize you’re holding. It shapes your reality more than you might want to admit.

This is exactly what we work through inside my seven-day challenge. Join the seven day challenge here. If you haven’t joined yet, it is not too late to start. We spend the week clearing out what is not serving you, so you can actually build the body, the beauty, and the life you are working toward, instead of building it on top of old hurt.

Unforgiveness is like a chain. It wraps around a piece of your past and keeps you tied there, whether you realize it or not. Forgiving someone is not about letting them off the hook. It is about unlocking that chain for yourself, so your heart has room to build something new.

I go even deeper on this in my new video, Wellness Tips To Reclaim Your Beauty, Body, and Boundaries. You can watch it below.

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